I believe that every children’s ministry should have a set of classroom rules established and posted for everyone, including children, leaders, and parents, to see.

Rules do two things for kids. In following rules, children glorify God. In breaking them, they are pointed to the Gospel.

Just like God’s Law points to our need for a Savior because we have broken it (Romans 8:3-4), rules allow us to point children to the Gospel by showing them that they do break the rules (sometimes A LOT) and need to be forgiven by God.

When you establish classroom rules, they should be easy to remember and Biblical. I like for our class rules to be universal and applicable not only to every event that we have, but to every aspect of life.

Here are the 3 rules that I recommend for children:

1. Respect God

Anything we say, think, or do should all please God. (1 Corinthians 10:31)

2. Respect Leaders

When a leader is talking, we are to be quiet, listening, and paying attention. If a leader asks us to do something, we need to obey. (Hebrews 13:17)

3. Respect Others

Treat others how we want to be treated. This includes using kind words and keeping our hands to ourselves. (Matthew 7:12)[divider]Explaining the rules to the children, before your meeting begins, presents opportunity to clarify some of your setting-specific rules under each of these headings (i.e. raising your hand before talking would fall under the “Respect Leaders” rule.) Presenting them in this way is nice because you can use the same rules for any event, they just have different specifics in different settings.

Remember, the reason for rules is to not only teach children how they can glorify God every day, but to also point them to the cross. When children see that they are sinful, they will begin to see their need for a Savior even more.

FREE RESOURCE: If you would like a downloadable poster of these rules to use in your children’s ministry, click here.

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What rules do you have in place for your children’s ministry? Have you used those rules to share the Gospel with children? Leave your thoughts in the comments!

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GJ Farmer is a husband, a dad, the founder of ChildrensMinistryBlog.com, and is the Children’s Pastor at First Baptist Church in Somerset, Kentucky. He has completed a Bachelor’s degree in Church Ministries and a Master’s degree in Children’s Ministry. He has also been fortunate to lead and teach groups at children’s ministry conferences and to have had some of his writing published. Apart from working with kids, he enjoys reading, performing magic tricks, playing video games, and University of Kentucky basketball.


  1. I agree — this is a great way to present the rules. Once they understand what it means, it gives the children an opportunity to learn how to reason for themselves about appropriate, considerate behavior.

    Recently we had my niece and nephew staying with us for several days. This is just the sort of rules I laid out right from the beginning. All in all, it worked very well. 😉

  2. Three rules as opposed to many rules – good. Three rules that aren’t concrete therefore end up being many rules – not good.

    What would I be doing / not doing that would indicate that I was obeying these rules? The list would go on and on and be different for each teacher/classroom.

    • You’ve made a valid point. This is why I recommend each teacher go over these rules and explain them for their class. You’ll find that typically they aren’t really that different between each teacher/classroom. Most classrooms have a standard set of understood rules that children will follow by their second year of being in a classroom setting. Even if there were “concrete” rules, I would think that there’s no way someone could cover everything. What set of rules do you use?