Presenter: Brian Dollar
Presentation content based on the book, I Blew It.

The Biggest Mistakes I Have Made in Children’s Ministry

10. Failing to realize that not every “good” idea is a “God” idea.

  • Sometimes we can get caught up in thinking that we come up with amazing and creative ideas, but we may end up leaning on our own understanding instead of God’s.
  • We should spend time in prayer and seeking God in order to know if your idea is a “God” idea.
  • Talk to wise counsel and get opinions of others before you put something into motion.

9. Not understanding the power of preparation.

  • Sometimes we use the ability to think quickly as a crutch for preparation.
  • We should take the time to prepare and plan for what we do.
  • If we don’t take the time to prepare, do we really understand the value of God’s Word and our roles as ministers to children?
  • We have time for what we want to make a priority.

8. Having “tunnel vision” and missing the BIG picture.

  • Too many children’s pastors have the tendency to focus on “our area” and we don’t think about the bigger picture of the church.
  • Ask questions, don’t wait for information to be brought to you, and schedule regular meetings with other leaders in the church.
  • Don’t whine and complain about what is or isn’t happening in your ministry.

7. Competing/positioning with other staff members and ministry leaders.

  • There isn’t a limited amount of success. If someone is successful, it doesn’t mean that someone else become less successful.
  • Everyone can be successful and we should desire success for everyone.
  • Symptoms of this mistake: competing for volunteers, getting jealous of others on your staff, trying to get back at someone.

6. Not tailoring the ministry/event to fit the needs of the children.

  • Not all children are at the same stage of development.
  • When you plan events, keep the ages and stages of children in mind.
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5. Not choosing the right time to be silly.

  • There’s a time and a place to be silly. It’s important to understand when and where that is.

4. Minimizing the importance of worship.

  • Kids do want to have fun, but they are also very capable of worshiping Him.

3. Trying to be a superstar instead of building a team.

  • The best ministry isn’t a one-person show.
  • We should not only incorporate volunteers into the ministry, but give them important roles.
  • If you build your ministry around you instead of a team, when you aren’t around your ministry will crumble.
  • If Jesus need a team of 12, we also need a team.
  • If you try to do it alone, you are depriving people of using their gifts.

2. Not recognizing the role of parents as the primary spiritual leaders of their kids.

  • While children’s pastors’ may be gifted and called to lead children, they have very minimal time with children.
  • If the one hour or two you have with children weekly is the only time they receive spiritual training, you’re going to fail.
  • Ideas for family spiritual opportunities- car talks, family devotions, family members participating in baptisms, etc.

1. Underestimating the potential of kids to change the world.

  • Children can change the world now.
  • Instead of seeing children only for what the future holds for them, we need to see them as potential world-changers now.
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GJ Farmer is a husband, a dad, the founder of, and is the Children’s Pastor at First Baptist Church in Somerset, Kentucky. He has completed a Bachelor’s degree in Church Ministries and a Master’s degree in Children’s Ministry. He has also been fortunate to lead and teach groups at children’s ministry conferences and to have had some of his writing published. Apart from working with kids, he enjoys reading, performing magic tricks, playing video games, and University of Kentucky basketball.