Presenter: Dr. Tim Kimmel
Presentation content based on the book, Connecting Church & Home.
Connecting Church & Home
- There’s a huge difference between people who have great ministries and people who live great lives.
- We are kidding ourselves if we think that what we do at church is somehow going to offset what’s being undermined at home.
- We need to see families how God sees them, and see churches how God meant for them to function.
1. God’s love is best nurtured through spiritually thriving families.
- In the beginning, God didn’t make a church, a country club, a committee, or an organization. He made a family.
- If we understood the family, we could understand how to make the church more effective.
- The family is a domestic church.
- Because everyone comes from a family, the strength of the family determines everything:
- The health of the church.
- The influence of the gospel.
- The impact of world missions.
- The conscience of political leadership.
- The character of our military and first responders.
- The heart of our educational system.
- The ethics of our scientific community.
- The morality of our arts and entertainment.
- The integrity of our business community.
- The biggest category among Christian parents, is “fear-based” parents. They are scared they cannot transfer God’s Word to their children on their own.
- Fear-based parenting does not launch children who have a passionate faith.
- God hasn’t called us to raise safe, Christian kids. He has called us to raise strong ones.
- If we aren’t careful, the Christian life we teach our kids ends up being “sin management” and “image control,” instead of the true work of the cross.
- Thriving families:
- Parents are leading kids even if they do not know how
- Parents are outwardly focused.
2. God’s love is best illustrated through churches and homes that reflect His heart.
- When grace isn’t the defining feature of our homes, it doesn’t matter if we get everything else biblically accurate.
- There should be a place for grace in everything we do.
- Grace makes people nervous.
- If we live our lives based on grace we must forgive, we must humble ourselves, we must rely God and take time for Him.
- The Bible doesn’t say, “Thy Word have I hid in my head.” We are often too focused on kids knowing biblical information, instead of understanding the heart of God.
3. God’s love is best transferred through a well-thought through strategy that is guided by His truth and tempered by His grace.
- John 1:14; 2 Peter 3:18; 2 Corinthians 9:8
- The church’s philosophical starting point is often performance, while the family’s starting point is fear.
- Our philosophical starting point should be grace.
- Grace is treating kids the same way God treats His kids.
- Aim them at true greatness.
- Build their character.
- Give their hearts freedom.
- Meet their true inner needs.
- True greatness: a passionate love for Jesus Christ that shows itself in an unquenchable love and concern for others.
4. God’s love is best leveraged when churches and families operate in partnership.
- Obviously there are exceptions for children with broken homes, but we need to help families figure out how to take Jesus home and let him shine there.
- We must make sure everything we do as a church is tempered through grace.
- Prepare them, Free them, Empower them, Aim them.